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Stop Telling Your Clients They’re Beautiful. Do This Instead.

By Jenika | October 3, 2013 |

Okay, I only sort of meant what I said there in the title.  Oops. You know how sometimes you say stuff you only half-mean? Like when I’m watching Parenthood and I jab my index finger at the TV and say “I can’t stand how Jasmine and Crosby handle their arguments, I’m never ever watching this…

What You Do When All Your Blog Posts Sound The Same

By Jenika | September 25, 2013 |

At a conference a few months back, I heard a photographer say “Blogs are dead.”  I didn’t get a chance to discuss this with them, but I’d amend that statement: Blogging is not for everyone, everywhere, all the time, always.  Blogging – just like Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, YouTube, Instagram, Pinterest, and a business website –…

You’re Losing Money If You’re Not Doing This When You Sell

By Jenika | September 18, 2013 |

So we’re standing in this rug shop in Tunisia, with colorful carpets lining the walls and overflowing into dusty stacks in the corners. A friend and I had climbed a swirling, tiled staircase, and emerged, blinking, into this visual feast of hand-knotted Berber rugs.  But for a few buzzing fluorescent lights overhead, we could easily…

How To Get Clients To Tell You What They’re Really Thinking

By Jenika | September 11, 2013 |

In one of my first classes in graduate school, my fellow students and I paired off to practice some therapy skills.  The task that day was to explore a situation the other person had experienced.  But there was a catch: We couldn’t ask a single question.  “What happened?  How did that feel?  Who was there? …