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The Most Dangerous Place To Get Stuck When You Want To Change [Video + Transcript]

By Jenika | March 10, 2020 |

This was part of a tiny video series sent to my email list – an experiment in conversing via video!  Here’s the recording + transcript.  Other recordings coming. Have you ever heard the saying, “If you think you can’t, you’re right”? Thinking “I can’t do that” is never fun, but it’s not the worst place…

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A Tool for When Inspirational Quotes Stop Working

By Jenika | February 25, 2020 |

When I took therapy classes in grad school, I expected the professors to be more…I don’t know…touchy-feely? Inspirational? It wasn’t like that at all. Most of them were extremely matter of fact. And I soon realized why – the point of most therapy methods isn’t to teach you what to think or feel. It’s to…

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This Might Be Why You’re Working And Not Getting Anywhere

By Jenika | February 11, 2020 |

I was sitting in my kitchen two days ago, hands around a warm mug, staring into space, when out of nowhere, an idea for a novel dropped into my head. (You know how ideas can do that, I bet.) The bizarre thing is, I’ve never wanted to write a novel. I don’t even read many…

If You Don’t Do This On Purpose, It’ll Make You Miserable By Accident

By Jenika | November 7, 2019 |

Imagine:  You start a project at your computer.  You work and work and get 92% of it done… …but then you have to stop.  You’re so close, but can’t hit “publish” or “send” or “export.” How do you feel as you close your laptop? I don’t know about you, but this drives me batty.  As…