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Find and Replace Your Negative Thoughts

By Jenika | May 29, 2021 |

You know what a seriously under-celebrated feature of modern life is? “Find and Replace.”  You know, like in Microsoft Word.  It’s after the new year and you accidentally wrote 2021 a bunch of times instead of 2022?  A few keystrokes and it finds ’em all for you and whooshes in the correct info, neatly.  No…

Making Change

By Jenika | June 10, 2020 |

It has been a few months since we’ve spoken, but I’ve been thinking about you. Lots to say, but I’m here because I’ve realized my blog has contributed to a problem.  I want to talk about it and share how I’ll be fixing it. Psychology often puts a magnifying glass on individual people.  In college…

The Most Dangerous Place To Get Stuck When You Want To Change [Video + Transcript]

By Jenika | March 10, 2020 |

This was part of a tiny video series sent to my email list – an experiment in conversing via video!  Here’s the recording + transcript.  Other recordings coming. Have you ever heard the saying, “If you think you can’t, you’re right”? Thinking “I can’t do that” is never fun, but it’s not the worst place…

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A Tool for When Inspirational Quotes Stop Working

By Jenika | February 25, 2020 |

When I took therapy classes in grad school, I expected the professors to be more…I don’t know…touchy-feely? Inspirational? It wasn’t like that at all. Most of them were extremely matter of fact. And I soon realized why – the point of most therapy methods isn’t to teach you what to think or feel. It’s to…