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The Most Dangerous Place To Get Stuck When You Want To Change [Video + Transcript]
This was part of a tiny video series sent to my email list – an experiment in conversing via video!
Here’s the recording + transcript. Other recordings coming.
Have you ever heard the saying, “If you think you can’t, you’re right”?
Thinking “I can’t do that” is never fun, but it’s not the worst place to get stuck. Modern psychology has gifted us tools for changing that mindset. They’ve been shown to work, over and over.
No, the most dangerous place to get stuck is somewhere else. And I’m not sure I’ve ever heard anyone even talk about it.
Let me give you a heads up about the part you *really* need to worry about if you want change something – and a straightforward one-step solution (I promise it really is one step that gets you out of this, click to watch –>):
Hey, Jenika here. I want to tell you the most dangerous place you can get stuck when you want to make a change.
Because that’s going to happen in your business.
And that is when things are going…okay. They’re not ideal, but you’re in a rhythm. You generally know what’s expected of you. Your clients are happy with what you’re producing and you could keep going the way things are.
But you notice, when you sit down to work, that your excitement is starting to dry up inside. And you feel that and look around and you see some other things that you could be doing and you think “oh wouldn’t that be cool?” And you look into it and that’s when some big feelings start to come up and you start thinking “well, this would be cool, but what happens if I try and I find out I’m not actually good at it?” Or “what if I let somebody down?” Or “Yikes! I don’t even know where to start.”
So you think, “You know what, I have a lot going on right now. I’m just going to finish up what I’m doing right now and finish this next project and get all caught up and then I’ll make a change.”
Right? This is the most dangerous place to get stuck. And I’ll tell you why.
Clayton Christensen, that Harvard Business School professor I talked about the other day, found that companies need to have their next engine of growth in place before they NEED it. That when the market shifts, and it can do so suddenly, they need to have that thing ready to go for when their current model stops working. They need to be able to push it forward.
Otherwise, he says, it’s like waking up one day and realizing you need shade but all you can do is plant saplings. That stuff takes time to grow.
So what does this mean for you? It means that today is the day to take a small step toward that thing that you’ve been thinking about doing.
And when I say “small step” I do not mean launching a website. I mean writing down two ideas that you need to communicate on your website. I mean making a list of people that you need to talk to. Because small steps add up, just like a tree grows ring by ring.
Then when you need that change, when your market shifts as it were, either your business market or something in your life changes (you move, something comes up), you have that other thing ready to go, when that current thing you’re doing stops working or when you just can’t do it anymore.
And I have to tell you that I’ve been in business for over eight years now and I have never once been caught up on all the work I have to do. It’s just not a thing that happens. I don’t think that exists. And I don’t say that to discourage you. What it means is you don’t have to wait for some magical moment to get started. Today is the magical moment.
And it also means that you don’t have to have it perfect like we’ve been talking about. You can just take a small step and figure it out as you go. So if you don’t know what that small step is for you, or if your idea is still kind of mushy in your head and you’re not really sure what’s going on. Or you’re like, how am I even going to fit this in when I already have so much on my plate? You know the drill. I would like you to email me and I would be happy to give you a couple of things to consider or a next step for you to think about, alright? And not just think about, but actually take. But maybe it’ll spark an idea for you.
And I’m also very happy to announce that I have actually cleared over 12 weeks of my schedule to work side-by-side with a few of you to make a change. And we’re going to do this together.
We’re going to identify what it is you need to change. Maybe you already know, maybe you don’t. Either way is fine.
We’re going to develop a strategy and clear small steps to take which we will go at your pace and we will start working on it together.
And we’re going to deal, I’m telling you right now, we’re going to deal with the big feelings that come up. And we’re going to deal with the fact that you’re busy and you’ve got a lot going on. And maybe you’re doing this in the bathroom while your kid is banging on the door.
It’s totally fine. And we’re also going to deal with the normal stuff that comes up. Like what happens if you get sick or go out of town, or you got to step away for a week. I will be here to catch you and bring you back so that you can keep going. And all that stuff that would normally derail you isn’t going to derail you.
I am so excited to do this because three months from now, instead of just thinking about that change you want to make, you could actually be living it. Instead of just seeing that person that is doing something you want to be doing, and you just kind of think “oh, wouldn’t that be great?” You could be networking with them as a peer.
So if this sounds cool, click the link that says “Get Jenika on my team” and you can learn more. And you guys know me…you can send me an email, if you’re not sure if this is right for you, just talk it through with me. I’d be happy to chat. But your dreams matter, and I hope to talk to you soon.