Posts by Jenika
Making Change
It has been a few months since we’ve spoken, but I’ve been thinking about you. Lots to say, but I’m here because I’ve realized my blog has contributed to a problem. I want to talk about it and share how I’ll be fixing it. Psychology often puts a magnifying glass on individual people. In college…
Read MoreThe Most Dangerous Place To Get Stuck When You Want To Change [Video + Transcript]
This was part of a tiny video series sent to my email list – an experiment in conversing via video! Here’s the recording + transcript. Other recordings coming. Have you ever heard the saying, “If you think you can’t, you’re right”? Thinking “I can’t do that” is never fun, but it’s not the worst place…
Read MoreA Tool for When Inspirational Quotes Stop Working
When I took therapy classes in grad school, I expected the professors to be more…I don’t know…touchy-feely? Inspirational? It wasn’t like that at all. Most of them were extremely matter of fact. And I soon realized why – the point of most therapy methods isn’t to teach you what to think or feel. It’s to…
Read MoreThis Might Be Why You’re Working And Not Getting Anywhere
I was sitting in my kitchen two days ago, hands around a warm mug, staring into space, when out of nowhere, an idea for a novel dropped into my head. (You know how ideas can do that, I bet.) The bizarre thing is, I’ve never wanted to write a novel. I don’t even read many…
Read MoreIf You Don’t Do This On Purpose, It’ll Make You Miserable By Accident
Imagine: You start a project at your computer. You work and work and get 92% of it done… …but then you have to stop. You’re so close, but can’t hit “publish” or “send” or “export.” How do you feel as you close your laptop? I don’t know about you, but this drives me batty. As…
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